Married in haste, people often repent at leisure

The more you invest in marriage the more valuable it becomes.
~ by Amy Grant

Guys. What will your reaction be if a girl who is your 'good' friend gets married, and few days later you call up that girl and her husband asks what your relationship with her is and also gives you a warning not to call her anymore!!! Wont you be shell shocked? This was what happened to my friend recently which prompted me to write this post. This situation seems very similar to the character played by SRK in ‘Hum tumhare hai sanam’! Pardon me for being filmy. Why do you need to bother to talk to her if she has such a possessive and insecured husband? Thats what I adviced my friend when he said this to me. But boy oh boy, this will have a quite an impact on the poor boys mind.

Why do men act like this? After hearing this story, I thought on this for a while. Is it the guy had come to know the past of his wife later on he got married or is it simple insecurity he has on his wife? Theirs was an arranged marriage but the couple knew each other for a month or so! Was this a reason for them not understanding each other well before marriage? I understand from the story is that the girl doesn't know this spying done by his husband and also, her mobile phone will be in his possession for most of the time. Sick guy! Why can’t he just sort out the matter with her, about who this caller is and get the air clarified? Why does he sit with this false air of suspicion around him, which will depress him to the core and also, affect his likely good married life?

I remember my mom telling me that don’t talk too much with girls as it may bring bad name to you and the family. Also, there was warning given to me to avoid talking to any girl who has got married. I used to scoff at these advices thinking it was very primitive and guys nowadays have become more mature. Now I realize the importance of advice given by parents and also, these things are preached by all old timers. They simply don’t preach that!

Coming back to our 'SRK'. Clearly insecurity over his wife has driven him to this shameless act of his. He never bothered to know all these things before marriage. The girl may have had boyfriends in her college days. To act crazy after marriage is completely absurd. You have already hit the hammer on your knees my friend. This guy now is dying a slow death due to the poison he has put in his own marriage. Grow up dude. Marriage is not a small responsibility. Marriage - as its veterans know well - is the continuous process of getting used to things you hadn't expected.